Finding and Being the “Helpers”

 

 “When I was a boy and I would see scary things in the news, my mother would say to me, ‘Look for the helpers. You will always find people who are helping.’ To this day, especially in times of ‘disaster,’ I remember my mother’s words and I’m always comforted by realizing that there are still so many helpers – so many caring people in this world.”

 

 

 

In the past few days, months, (even years) it may feel hard to turn on the TV or any media source because of the images that we are constantly bombarded with.  As a parent of young children, this can feel overwhelming.  How are we supposed to raise children to love and inspire when they are constantly faced with so much hate?

The answer lies in the wise words of a man many of us grew up with…Mr. Rogers.  It was he that clued us in to the idea his own mother passed on to him “Find the Helpers.”

In nearly every scary, tragic, untimely event, there will always be people doing good; being good; showing good.

Recent events show thousands lining up to donate blood in Las Vegas and millions of people donating time, money, goods and effort to help the victims impacted by Hurricanes Harvey, Irma and Maria.

No matter the situation, there are always, always people helping. This is a reassuring on a global level, but also on a day to day level.  In any situation we encounter, we can help our children find the helpers…while also being the helpers.

How can we do this? Small steps include

-Take time to notice the every day good and point it out to our children.

-Engage in small moments of “paying it forward.” This can be as simple as bringing cookies to a neighbor, helping new parents adjust to baby life, raking leaves for an elderly friend who may need assistance, or bigger gestures like prepaying in the drive-thru or donating winter gear to children who may go without.

-Speak kindly.  About everyone and everything.  Kindness is a powerful tool in the face of hate and discord.

Looking for more?  DoingGoodTogether.Org is a fabulous resource for:

Everyday Acts of Kindness:

http://www.doinggoodtogether.org/bhf/24quickactsofkindness/

Talking Tips:

http://www.doinggoodtogether.org/bhf/7-talking-tips-to-help-kids-practice-compassion/

Books About Kindness:

http://www.doinggoodtogether.org/bhf-book-lists/creative-picture-books-to-inspire-everyday-acts-of-kindness

Family Service Ideas:

http://www.doinggoodtogether.org/bhf/pick-a-project